Read on for her advice on what corners you can cut – and what ones you definitely shouldn’t!
Stress-free wedding planning
A couple of weeks ago, I ran a Q&A on our Instagram account, answering questions people had about wedding planning, invitation wording, and what we do at Gettin’ Hitched Rocks. (Answer: awesome work, always.)
Reading some of the questions that came in, it really struck me how truly overwhelming wedding planning can be – not just in the amount of wedmin there is to do and the number of suppliers you need to find and click with (which the Rocks Band and I already do our best to help with, with our stress-free wedding planning websites and all-in-one packages), but with guest-list stress, family pressure, disagreements, budget worries, both parts of a couple having very different visions… Things that can make you want to pack the whole thing in and elope. Or call it off.
Find out her tips, tricks, and t- uh, advice below.
The wedding you have – after all the planning, and pinning, and crafting, and hunting, and stressing, and spending – should be yours. It should feel like you. It has your blood, sweat, and tears in it – it should have your personality and sense of humour too. It should have little touches that make your friends go, ‘Oh yeah. Riley did this.’
Whatever kind of wedding you’re having – from a shindig in your backyard to a church ceremony in black tie to an elegant gala – there are places you can fit your personality and humour and you-ness without feeling out-of-place.
And one of the easiest ways to add some personal touches to your day is naming the tables at your reception dinner.
The full article is on the Wed in Central Park blog (and it’s rather good, if I do say so myself) (which I do) (it’s brilliant, really), but here’s a sneak peek to tide you over:
I don’t need to tell you that planning a destination wedding takes a lot of organisation, co-ordination, and forethought – but I will.
Planning a destination wedding takes a lot of organisation, co-ordination, and forethought.
You don’t just have a wedding to organise – vetting vendors and venues and v- uh, dinner options – you’ve got a fifteen-person family vacation to sort, too.
You’re planning hen dos, stag dos, group photos, kid-friendly events, kid-unfriendly events…
It’s difficult to co-ordinate that with a big group – or, really, any size of group.
I’ll be talking to real couples about the lessons they learned in planning their weddings – and what pitfalls they want you to avoid!
And, since I’ll be asking everyone to talk about the less than perfect parts of their day, it’s only fair I go first!
Hi. I’m Mell. And these are the best decisions I made for my wedding – and the worst.
It’s Claire’s job to make sure everything goes to plan for her clients’ weddings – and get them back on track sharpish if they don’t! Here’s Claire on the unexpected problems you might run into when you’re planning a destination wedding – and what you can do to make sure they don’t ruin your big day.
Whose name should come first. If people should be cordially or joyfully invited. If your married female friends should be named on the envelope or listed as Mrs Husband’s Name (which opens a whole can of worms when it comes to queer couples).
But it’s important to ask yourself: do you care?
Do your friends – the people you’re inviting to the most special day of your life, the people you’re closest to, the people you know the best and care about the most – do they care about the rules an etiquette company made up in the 1700s, to establish propriety among the Georgian upper classes?
Or do they want a no-nonsense invitation to your wedding that they can decipher without a history lesson?
Unless you’re inviting the Queen of England to your wedding, I’d say you shouldn’t stress too much about the ‘proper wording’ for your invitations. (Honestly, even then, you don’t need to worry that much – she’s pretty chill.)
There’s one mistake I see couples making again and again at their weddings.
They plan out every aspect of the day, agonising over table plans and playlists and timings for toasts – but they don’t think through the ceremony.
When you’re planning a wedding, you’ll quickly learn everyone has an opinion on how you should do things. Your parents. Your partner’s parents. Your gynecologist. Me. (Hello.)
Googling for a simple answer will bring up a hundred thought pieces on why your wedding needs to have something – a phone ban, a confetti ban, a complaining about the bans ban – and a hundred more on why those thought pieces are unforgivably wrong.
It’s overwhelming. It’s hard to know if you’re making the right choices for your wedding when everyone gives you conflicting advice – whether you ask for it or not. So I want to reassure you there’s no such thing as a wrong choice for your wedding. Whatever you do, whatever you wear, whoever you invite, at the end of the day, you’ll be married – and that’s the only bit that matters.
The little decisions don’t matter in the bigger scheme of things. Doing something – or not doing something – won’t wreck your wedding.
Except this one. Here are seven reasons why you need a wedding website, or your wedding will be ruined forever*.