Choosing your wedding guestlist is already a minefield. Balancing the people you feel you ought to invite with the people you most want there. Working out who’s a day guest and who’s an evening guest. Broaching the dangerous debate of kid-friendly or kid-free.
But what do you do when you’ve got it all worked out – then your friends break-up?
In this month’s Problem Pal, we’re looking at how you should handle a friend breaking up with their plus one before your wedding.
Welcome, pals, to our monthly Problem Pal segment, where we give actionable, anonymous advice on all your wedding woes.
So No One Told You Life Was Going To Be This Way has written in with a worry I reckon everyone’s had planning their wedding:
How do I pick a best man without insulting my other friends?
It can be hard enough working out how to choose your wedding party, but singling out just one of your friends to be your best man, maid of honour, or mate of honour can feel like a minefield.
Welcome, pals, to another Problem Pal segment, where you can get actionable (and anonymous) advice on all your wedding worries.
Like Carole King Says, It’s Too Late has written in with an all-too-common problem:
Some friends of ours didn’t RSVP before the deadline on our invitations. We assumed they couldn’t attend but, after we gave the final details to our caterer and our venue, they mentioned how excited they were for our wedding. I’m not sure how to tell them it’s too late now and they’ve missed the deadline – or if I even should!
A couple of weeks ago, I ran a Q&A on our Instagram account, answering questions people had about wedding planning, invitation wording, and what we do at Gettin’ Hitched Rocks. (Answer: awesome work, always.)
Reading some of the questions that came in, it really struck me how truly overwhelming wedding planning can be – not just in the amount of wedmin there is to do and the number of suppliers you need to find and click with (which the Rocks Band and I already do our best to help with, with our stress-free wedding planning websites and all-in-one packages), but with guest-list stress, family pressure, disagreements, budget worries, both parts of a couple having very different visions… Things that can make you want to pack the whole thing in and elope. Or call it off.