I hate my engagement ring. Haaaaaate it. It’s gaudy and huge and not my style at all.
I never thought I was the kind of girl who’d care about carots and jewellery, but this is just so wrong. I can’t imagine wearing it for the next fifty years. And seeing other people’s engagement rings on Instagram makes me want to cry.
This should be something I’m excited about and want to show off – but when I look at it, all I can do is wonder how my fiancé got my taste so wrong.
I know there are much worse problems in the world and this feels like such a superficial thing to be upset about, but it’s really dampening my excitement at being engaged.
Should I say anything? Should I ‘lose it’ somewhere? Or am I doomed to a life with the world’s ugliest ring?
The word ‘wedding’ conjures a fixed image for people, based on hundreds of years of tradition. A diamond ring. A white dress. A cringey disco.
But some of those ‘must-have’ wedding traditions aren’t even that traditional. (White dresses only got popular in 1840!) And they probably aren’t you, either.
Here’s the thing: your day should feel like your day. With the time, money, and effort you put into your wedding, you should have a day you love, that reflects you and your partner – not snobby etiquette writers from 1803.
It can be hard to feel you can push back on wedding traditions – especially when everyone from your in-laws to your dog walker keeps telling you you need to do this or you’ll regret not doing that.
But you don’t have to have anything at your wedding that you don’t love. Really.
Carrying on from last week’s Wednesday Wedspiration, where we looked at 48 (absolutely freaking gorgeous) alternatives to diamond rings, this week we’re looking at engagement rings that are similar to diamonds in everything but the price tag.
Diamonds are the (not-so-well-kept) dirty secret of the wedding industry.
Everyone knows diamonds aren’t worth the price tag. Everyone knows a single company has a monopoly on diamond mines and has artificially inflated the cost of diamonds. And everyone knows the high costs have caused problems, with diamonds being used to finance things you probably don’t want the sweet announcement of your everlasting love to finance.
But everyone shrugs it off. Everyone thinks it sucks but it’s just how it is. Everyone thinks they don’t have another choice for an engagement ring.
Ladies and gentlemen, I’d like to introduce you to your other choice: it’s called every other gemstone, ever.