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Stress-free wedding planningStress-free wedding planning: Problem Pal

How can I ask my friends to be involved in my wedding without accidentally pressuring them to say yes?

How do you ask your family and friends if they would like to give toasts at your wedding without pressuring them into it?

There are a few people who I’d like to give toasts and readings at my wedding but I’m worried if I – the bride – ask them, they’ll feel obligated to do it, even if they don’t want to.

I’d especially love my mum to give a speech on the day but I don’t know how comfortable she’d be doing it. She’s been nervous doing public speaking before and I hate the thought of her spending the day worrying about the speech instead of enjoying herself, but I know she’ll feel she has to say yes if I ask her.

While I could ask someone else, it’s really the only part of the day she could be involved with, since she’s not giving me away. I don’t want her to feel left out and I’m really torn on what to do.

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About Gettin’ Hitched Rocks

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I started Gettin’ Hitched Rocks to keep you whelmed while you plan your wedding, with wedding websites that do the wedmin for you and send automatic RSVP reminders to the people who need them, and matching stationery, so you can carry the design you love, with your personality shining through in every detail, across every part of your wedding, from save the dates to thank yous — and everything inbetween!

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An order of service tells people what to expect.⁠
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Your wedding ceremony isn't going to be like anyone else's. Maybe you're having an hour-long religious ceremony with hymns - that people need to know the words to! - or a half hour celebrant wedding with a ring blessing, that people may never have seen before.⁠
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An order of service is a space where you can lay that out.⁠
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An order of service gives you a space to explain not just what will happen (and how many biscuits your guests will need to bribe their kids with, to keep them quiet) but what its significance is; why a reading matters to you, or why you picked a song to enter to.⁠
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And it's a space to introduce people to your wedding party, and your partner, if they might not know them well.⁠
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It's a chance to give people information they might need - whether that's the fact you're having a phone-free wedding or the wifi password. (No judgement.)⁠
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And it's something your friends from different walks of life can chat about as they get to know one another, and take home with them as a souvenir of your day.⁠
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Find out more about on-the-day wedding stationery and why it's worth considering for your wedding on our blog.⁠
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Couples often ask me what they need on their weddi Couples often ask me what they need on their wedding invitations.⁠
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If they need to list their full names. Their parents' names. If they're inviting people cordially or jubilantly. What the etiquette is for addressing envelopes.⁠
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What I always tell them is: you're inviting your friends to a party. Just give them the details.⁠
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No one's going to be offended you didn't follow obscure etiquette rules from the Georgian era, that they'd need a history lesson to decipher properly. They're just going to be excited to be invited to your wedding.⁠
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Don't overthink it. Say what you mean. Like, 'We hope you can come celebrate with us!' Or, 'We'd love you to join us!'⁠
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Pinch our wording examples (link in bio) or get in touch for help wording wedding invitations that feel like you.
What do you need to have on your wedding invitatio What do you need to have on your wedding invitations?⁠
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✔️ The names of the people getting married. (That's important.)⁠
✔️ Where and when the wedding will be. (That's important too!)⁠
✔️ Your wedding website address and log in details.⁠
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That's it. That's the list.⁠
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Not only can you fit everything on a postcard and save a fortune - you can also save yourself a lot of stress by having the rest of the details on your wedding website.⁠
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You can customise it for every guest, hiding details about your ceremony and sit-down meal from your reception-only guests.⁠
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You can leave your RSVP form to collect the details you need, so you don't need to count and recount how many people want the vegan option or dig through RSVP cards for the names of plus ones.⁠
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And your wedding website can even send SMS reminders to get your RSVPs back on time!⁠
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Find out more about how our wedding websites work (awesomely) on our website.⁠
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📣 To help keep you whelmed while you plan your 📣 To help keep you whelmed while you plan your wedding, we're now offering copywriting and proofreading services.⁠⠀
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Planning a wedding can feel like you've taken on a second job. Focus on the fun bits (hello cake samples!) and let us handle the rest.⁠⠀
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For £235, we'll write everything you need for your wedding website.⁠⠀
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• We'll write clear directions on how to get to your ceremony and reception venues from planes, trains, and automobiles.⁠⠀
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• We'll write all the details of your day - and your story.⁠⠀
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• We'll make sure everything is clear to your guests, so you're not bombarded with questions.⁠⠀
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Or, if you want to write up the details of your day yourself but want some reassurance that the Ts have been crossed and the Is have been dotted (not to mention placed firmly after E wherever necessary), we're also offering a 'check and send' proofreading service.⁠⠀
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We can proofread what you've written for your wedding website, correcting typos and offering suggestions for improvement, for £25.⁠⠀
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Check out our website designs and find out more on our website.⁠⠀
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It's one thing to know your wedding is your day an It's one thing to know your wedding is your day and you should do what makes you comfortable; it's another to actually feel comfortable with unconventional choices.⁠
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As much as I'd like to say you should never have anyone at your wedding who'd judge you for breaking tradition and putting your own spin on things, families can be a lot more complicated than that. You might have to deal with some judgemental aunts or a mother who s i i i i i ghs when you tell her something you're excited about.⁠
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How do you deal with that? How do you balance bringing your personality into your day against worries about being judged that you can't shake off, no matter how much T Swift you listen to?⁠
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That's what we're digging into in this month's Problem Pal advice column.⁠
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This is the dirty part of wedding planning no one This is the dirty part of wedding planning no one talks about: you get sick of talking about your own wedding.⁠⠀
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It dominates most of your conversations. You talk about it with the people who are a part of your day and need to know the nitty gritty details, but also the casual acquaintances, who turn to it as an easy way to make conversation for a few minutes before a meeting.⁠⠀
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If you're starting to feel like you don't talk about anything else, we have some wording you can pinch to - politely - move the conversation on to something else on our wedding planning advice column.⁠⠀
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This month, we're donating 5% of every sale we mak This month, we're donating 5% of every sale we make to @s_lawrencetrust, to support the incredible anti-racism work they do across the UK.⁠
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Set up in memory of Stephen Lawrence, who was killed by racists while waiting for a bus, the Stephen Lawrence Charitable Trust helps young people from disadvantaged backgrounds study and gain work experience in architecture - honouring Stephen's dream of becoming an architect - and helps businesses recruit more diverse talent.⁠
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They're truly incredible and well worth your support.
Our wedding websites work in 3 easy steps:⁠⠀
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1. Choose your wedding style⁠⠀
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Find a website design to fit your wedding in our collection or wow your guests with a bespoke design, unique to your wedding.⁠⠀
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2. Create your website⁠⠀
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The fun bit! Create your guest list and write up the details of your day, then we'll turn it into a fully working website with our concierge service.⁠⠀
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3. Netflix and chill!⁠⠀
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Focus on the fun parts of planning your wedding — we'll do the rest. We'll remind your guests to RSVP and get the details you need.⁠⠀
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Click the link in our bio to learn more and find out how you can plan your wedding, stress-free, with a website that organises your guests for you.
Sound the sexy new website klaxon! 📣⁠⠀
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I've been beavering away behind the scenes to update Hitched.Rocks with a new look, oodles of information about how our wedding websites work (and how they can make your life easier), and even some exciting new services!⁠⠀
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Click the link in our bio to check it out, or slide into my DMs to natter nuptials and find out more about our wedding websites and matching stationery.

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